8 Easy Ways to Reconnect with an Old Friend

What makes the close friends you have special? Do they make you smile unlike anyone else you know? Do you have an unspoken language you share? These types of friends are very rare. When you find them, be sure to hang on to them. They are precious gifts.

Have you lost contact with a close friend? These 8 easy ways to reconnect with an old friend will help you renew your friendships. #4 will have you both laughing and #6 will make a lasting impression. Click to read and find your favorite.

I am a firm believer that people come into our lives when we need them most. They help us learn and grow. Some friends come for a few years. Others stay for several decades.

Have you ever wanted to reconnect with an old friend? Especially one you lost contact with over the years? Are you not sure how to do this? Do you feel like you can’t? Think of a friend you haven’t spoken with in a while. Maybe they’re from your childhood or young adult years. Now, let’s learn 8 easy ways to reconnect with this old friend.

8 Easy Ways to Reconnect with an Old Friend

1. Just Say Hi

Just say “Hi!” You can decide the best method for reaching out to your friend. Some ideas include reaching out on social media, texting, email, or writing a letter (yes, with a stamp). I know it’s intimidating to start the conversation. You might begin to think, what if they don’t remember me? What if I look like an idiot? I bet they’re busy with their life and probably won’t have time to respond.

When you start having these thoughts, I want you to do something. Put those thoughts on pause. Breathe. Then tell yourself, “thank you for your input” and send the message to your friend anyway.

The only person who truly fails is the person who doesn’t try. When you reach out to your friend you are giving them a message, saying, “here I am!” Once the message is sent it’s up to them to respond.

Don’t be offended if they choose not to write back. The important thing is that you tried and have opened the door for communication to start again.

2. First Time Meeting

Thinking of the friend you want to reconnect with, try remembering what it was like meeting them for the first time. What do you remember?

My childhood best friend and I met on the first day of middle school. My mom sent me out the door saying, “You should sit by Courtney. She’s shy and will need a friend.” I rolled my eyes and headed out the door as most eleven-year-old children do.

During the lunch hour, I grabbed my school lunch and went to look for a table to sit and eat. That’s when I saw Courtney sitting by herself with her brown paper lunch sack. My mother’s voice came to my mind again and I sat with her. This act alone has brought almost twenty years of friendship.

Write down your own memory and send it to your friend. The best thing to do would be an email or social media message. Say, “Dear (name), I was thinking of the first time we met …” End your letter with your tender feelings towards them. I would be surprised if they didn’t respond to something so sweet.

3. Photo Album

Do you have any pictures, in a photo album or on your computer, you can send to them? I would advise only one email for these photographs if the pictures are digital. You don’t want to overwhelm your friend and fill their inbox with dozens of new emails.

The easiest route to go down would be a .zip file. Doing a .zip file will allow you to upload as many pictures as you want into a file.

(Unsure how to create a .zip file? Create a new folder on your desktop. Name it “the name you want” and place the pictures in this folder. Once you finish uploading pictures, right-click on the folder and select the send to option and then “compressed (zipped) folder.” All done!)

4. Embarrassing Moment

Instead of sharing your first memory, consider sharing a silly or embarrassing moment you both shared together. Think of one moment and write to your friend about how much that particular moment means to you! It’s wonderful to have someone you can be yourself around. It’s even better to have someone you can be vulnerable and embarrassed around and know you’re safe.

5. Invitation

Do you and this friend live in the same town? Are you traveling to (or near) where this friend lives? Consider extending an invitation to go out to lunch together. You can send them a text or email and say, “Hey, I’ll be in your area on this day. I would love to get together with you and have lunch. When would be a good day and time?” It’s up to you if you want to extend the offer to pay for your friend’s meal.

6. Long-Hand

Writing a long-hand letter is the least conventional way to reconnect with an old friend. It’s also one of the most creative ways. Very few people write letters anymore, yet we all love to receive something in the mail.

If you choose to write to your friend about your first memory of meeting, or another tender moment, don’t forget to include your address on the letter and envelope! This is important so they will know where to send the reply. So often I’ve received letters from family members or friends and their address in the top left corner was either torn off or smudged.

7. Thank You Card

Send a thank you card expressing your feelings about your friend and all the good they have done for you would be a pleasant surprise for them. A thank you card has a special way of making people smile and softening hearts. Especially when the thank you card is genuinely written with heartfelt words.

If you can’t think of what to say in your thank you card, consider sending a hand-written Christmas or birthday card. Any effort to contact and reconnect with your friend is not a wasted.

8. Giving A Keepsake

Is there something you and your friend have a special bond or memory too? Is this an item that you now have in your possession? Such as a concert ticket stub, a t-shirt, or a photograph? If so, consider sending this to your friend as a gift with a letter attached, expressing your memories and feelings.

As you apply these 8 easy ways to reconnect with an old friend, you will be able to open the door for friendships to heal and be renewed. You will be able to reconnect with your friend and express your heartfelt and tender feelings.

Have you had success in reconnecting with an old friend? Leave a comment and let us know what you did and how it went.

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